TCHR-028 — Crazy Man's Video: The Legendary Supreme Evil And Best Beauty

It is common for shy Japanese men to feel uncomfortable around beautiful or "perfect" women. There are several possible reasons for this, but I think the main one is lack of self-confidence. When they perceive the other person as "perfect," they feel that they are not worthy of that, and as a result, they hesitate to take a step forward...I think that this is true for all humans. In Japanese culture, there is a strong tendency to fear failure and rejection in relationships with others. In particular, there is a psychological tendency to avoid approaching a "perfect" person and having their self-esteem hurt by being rejected. Sometimes beautiful or excellent women are over-idealized. This makes the other person seem like a flower out of reach, and even normal conversation and interaction can feel difficult. Especially in Japanese society, and among older generations, the old value that men should take the lead still remains. Therefore, when they perceive the other person as "perfect," they worry about whether they can meet those expectations and are unable to take action proactively... When you think about it, it seems like a hassle. For these reasons, it is understandable that shy Japanese men have a hard time with beautiful or "perfect" women. However, by deepening their self-understanding and confidence and treating the other person without treating them too special, it may be possible to build a relationship more naturally. Beautiful and "perfect" women are also normal people. If you think they are perfect, it becomes difficult to approach them, but if you understand that the other person also has their own worries and shortcomings, you may be able to treat them more naturally. However, I still have a hard time with beautiful women. Speaking of which, I wrote about a self-help book for love that I read a long time ago. The solution is, "Instead of taking big action suddenly, it is important to increase communication with the other person little by little. Start with greetings and light conversations, and then try to gradually offer familiar topics. By gradually deepening your relationship, your tension with the other person will gradually ease." If you can do that, it won't be a problem. I guess it means you should be concerned about it. I still feel the same way I was back then, when I stopped thinking that it was just a matter of innate quality. But I don't have any particular regrets. Recently, a male junior colleague who works under me said this.